Social Skills: How to Be Confident in Social Situations

Few skills have as much of an effect on your happiness as social skills. So naturally, they’re a little more difficult than they seem.

If you related all too well as soon as you read the word ‘difficult,’ don’t feel too bad — I’m a blatant introvert, and I was never much of a natural at this stuff either. I’m still not, really, but someone keeps forgetting and letting me say things on camera.

With that in mind, for all you socially fallible humans out there, we’re talking about how to build confidence and connect with other (also socially fallible) humans.

And remember, don’t skip leg day if you want to have aquarium feet.

Things mentioned in this episode:

  • Cortex podcast
  • My Personality Test Results…
  • 16Personalities Test
  • Johnny Depp
  • Avril Lavigne
  • Listen Money Matters
  • Halo effect
  • , by Daniel Kahneman
  • Elon Musk
  • Mark Zuckerberg
  • Messy Room, Messy Mind
  • How to Be More Confident Than Anyone You Know: 5 Effective Tips
  • How to Be More Confident: 5 Strategies that Worked for Me
  • How Twitter Helped Me Take Myself Seriously
  • Martin on Twitter
  • Collegetopia – How to Approach Anyone with the 3 Second Rule
  • Morgan Freeman
  • Hank Green
  • Logan Paul
  • Ben Affleck
  • Snoop Dogg
  • Reggie Fils-Aimé
  • Epic Rap Battles of History
  • Owen Wilson
  • The Brass Rabbit (Anna’s channel)
  • Conan O’Brien
  • AlphaM YouTube channel
  • Real Men Real Style YouTube channel
  • MaleFashionAdvice subreddit
  • Benny Lewis
  • Fluent in 3 months (Benny Lewis’s website)
  • Wisecrack
  • Jake Paul
  • Martin’s personal website
  • Tom’s personal website
  • Tobey Maguire
  • The Ultimate Networking Guide for Introverts
  • Charisma on Command YouTube channel

Want more cool stuff? You can find all sorts of great tools at my Resources page.


  • 0:00:25 – Working at home and renting offices
  • 0:04:54 – How isolation affects your social skills
  • 0:07:00 – Becoming more socially confident
  • 0:13:46 – Improving your enunciation
  • 0:19:07 – Grooming, personal identity and self-confidence
  • 0:31:07 – Being more serious and open about your interests
  • 0:34:45 – Reasons for today’s amount of isolation and depression
  • 0:36:59 – Don’t always hang out in big groups and build deeper friendships
  • 0:42:00 – Socializing without your friends
  • 0:47:27 – Approaching people with the 3-second rule and meeting celebrities
  • 0:53:00 – Starting conversations by showing interest in people
  • 0:57:33 – Having a hobby that might be perceived as weird
  • 1:11:47 – Learning how to listen and reaching out to people you admire
  • 1:22:48 – Don’t try to be the greatest at everything you do
  • 1:25:27 – Recap and conclusion

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Social Skills: How to Be Confident in Social Situations (Ep. 181)